#10 - Perfectionism, Play, and Podcasting as a Couple
/If you’ve ever wondered how to start a creative project with your partner—or why it can feel so hard—you’ll feel right at home in this episode.
Kelly and Nyssa share the honest story behind launching their podcast: from the initial “we should record this” spark to choosing equipment, taking a podcast course, and dealing with all the resistance that shows up when you actually hit record and publish.
They talk about perfectionism, creative block, and resistance, drawing on influences like Seth Godin, Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way, morning pages, and Steven Pressfield’s The War of Art to unpack what it really takes to keep creating.
Main Topics Covered:
How a four‑hour phone call and bed‑coffee chats slowly turned into a podcast
Why “done is better than perfect” might be the only way any episode gets made
Seth Godin on “talker’s block” and what it reveals about creative resistance
Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way, morning pages, and why blocks often show up in midlife
The hidden dynamics of co‑creating with your partner (and what birth order has to do with it)
Projective identification, survival dances, and why so many couples just want to be “right”
Turning conflict into a “play space” instead of a minefield in your relationship
Spreadsheets vs. creative flow: respecting wildly different work styles in a shared project
Why they’re waiting for 100 audio episodes before adding video or YouTube
“Constipated creativity,” soul‑murdering projects, and finding that sweet spot of challenge
Links:
The Movement Maestro (Dr. Shanté Cofield)
Books Mentioned:
The Artist’s Way – Julia Cameron
The Practice – Seth Godin
The War of Art – Steven Pressfield
Put Your Ass Where Your Heart Wants to Be – Steven Pressfield